I have heard from many people over the last several days after posting about my blog on Facebook. I appreciate all the kind words, prayers, encouragement and thoughts. It has also brought back some of the less desirable memories of the journey. One of those things is stereotypes. In all honesty the “gay” stereotypes get me a little worked up, sometimes just plan mad. My questions & thoughts…
Pitch and Tone of Voice – what if your voice is higher pitched and not a ‘deep’ bass voice like other men? Does that make a person less of a man? Physique – what if your body is not overly muscular or defined by biceps, broad shoulders and a six pack of abs? so what if you are not athletically inclined? Does that make a person less of a man? Creative sense – what if your skills and talents may be design, singing, dance, art, cooking or another creative means? Does that make a person less of a man? Gestures – what if a guy displays some mannerisms or gestures that may typically be displayed by a woman? Does that make a person less of a man? Emotional/Sensitive – what if a guy is emotional and sensitive towards others and how others treat them? Does this make a person less of a man?
Unfortunately the culture has targeted these traits as being less than “manly”. I do understand how this occurs and honestly find myself drawn into thoughts and assumptions based on these stereotypes placed on man being “gay”. Although it makes me frustrated when they are applied to me, I admit I fall into the trap of applying them as well. As I am learning about my own true identity and the traits of Godly masculinity, I have come to realize that the opinions of others regarding my own tone of voice, physique, creative sense, gestures, and emotional sensitivity does not determine my manhood. Let us be careful of stereotypes! Then there is the truth here I need to remember, we all need to remember:
Psalm 139: 113 For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
I sorta feel like this entry isn’t complete. I may have more….Stay tuned my friends. PS. If you want to follow me regularly click the follow button on the bottom of main blog page to sign up for e-mail notifications. ~Stan